Hiring a cleaning service for the length of time someone is in treatment can be a HUGE help. You can reach out to your friend group or work group and everyone can pitch in whatever amount they want or “cover a cleaning day” by paying the full amount for one cleaning session. This is a great gift to offer anyone sick or grieving. Use a service that someone in the group trusts instead of a random cleaning service and explain the situation to them so they are sensitive about schedule changes and possible cancellations.

Find a local company that delivers dairy products. After 9/11, Megan’s niece’s soccer team pitched in and had milk, eggs, yogurt, butter and cream cheese delivered for a year. The family was never out of the basics and this was a huge help.

In terms of texts, try to make statements instead of questions so the person doesn’t feel pressure to respond back – you can use your own words or send a daily/weekly quote:

“I’m with you in my mind and heart today.”

“Sending you love.”

“You are not alone. I’m right here.”

“Praying that today is as gentle as possible for you.”

“You can do this.”

And never ever underestimate a classic…

“I love you.” … This one covers all the bases.

For the most part, it is unnecessary to mention why you are sending the text. They know they are going to the hospital, etc., so you don’t have to say “I’m thinking about you while you are at the hospital today.” Just leave that part out so they don’t have to see the word “hospital” a hundred times in texts that day.

The “Better Sweater Fleece” from Patagonia, for example, comes in all different colors and is a perfect “go-to fleece” for around the house or the hospital. A full zipper in the front may be the best option for someone in treatment.

Collect money and open an account at a restaurant in town. This way the family knows all they have to do is call in an order and have food delivered. Give the restaurant the heads up about what the family is going through so that they have the chance to be extra flexible, sensitive and loving with the deliveries. You can also add a pretty envelope filled with dollar bills so the family isn’t scrambling for money to tip the delivery person.